Why is it that – even when confronted with their sin – some people just don’t seem to be able to effectively repent of it and embrace change?
The real problem is that some sins are literal strongholds; meaning, freedom from them can only be affected via deliverance, where the ax of Holy Spirit is put to the root cause of the stronghold supernaturally when a soul is willing to be freed. The Body of Christ are helpers, one to another, when deliverance is commissioned by God. (It’s only commanded by Him when He knows a soul is truly willing to have Him break the bondage of sin through the power of agreement.) Deliverance prayer is powerful and permanent when linked to the resolve of the person being freed. Hallelujah.
However, unless there is genuine willingness to experience sincere release through repentance in conjunction with deliverance prayers directed by Christ – freedom cannot come.
So, what do you do for the pain-in-the-butt person – constantly buffeted by their own recurring sins and chained to the beast of strongholds – who’d rather bathe in their uncleanness and wallow in self-pity than be joyfully washed by the Blood of the Lamb? What do you do when a person is UN-willing to be delivered because they’ve become “comfortable” with their pain and so well-acquainted with their errors they’d rather remain dry and barren and sinful and sick in shortcomings, darkness, and burdens?
You pray for them; you witness to them and speak the Truth in love to them under Holy Spirit’s direction every time you see them. As God grants opportunities, shower them repeatedly with His Truth which will take away their excuse (the cop-out that says they were never warned, given a chance to change, or treated with unconditional love). Continue to love them from a sincere heart, as God has loved you.
When a person is truly and tragically unwilling to change, that’s all you can do.
It’s difficult to affirm someone you envy. Jealousy interferes with affirmations.
If you’re having trouble affirming a brother or sister to the depth and frequency the Lord desires, ask Him to examine your heart…
… and repent.
[Review Part One]
“I expected her to be appreciative and say so,” he answered. “What I told her was a really hard thing… for me, anyway.”
“So you felt you were being vulnerable, is that it?” the counselor offered.
Jessup sipped his coffee with his eyebrows raised, “Yeah, in a way, I did. I trust her to have the biggest part of everything; not just of me, but of everything I own. I mean, shouldn’t a husband do that for a wife if he loves her?”
The counselor looked up from his notes, sympathetically.
“Jessup, when you have a serious relationship with the Lord like your wife, your focus is not on the things of the earth. The main thing… the main Person in your life is Him. Can you understand that?”
The new husband put his coffee cup down. “In spiritual things, yes; but this is about our marriage. In the things about marriage, I thought it was God Who said that the husband belongs to the wife and the wife belongs to the husband. Is that not true? It was all I was saying to her.”
The counselor scooted forward and said, “Yes, as it pertains to sexual relations and intimacy, man and wife do belong to each other, Jessup. But you didn’t specify any of that. I hope you’re not saying this now just to make more sense to me. I hope you realize your wife is simply saying God has total charge of your lives in every area, and it’s only by His permission that your bodies are given to one another in matters of intimacy. Actual ownership of everything you two are belongs to God. That’s what she is saying.”
Jessup crossed his legs and slumped slightly in his chair. “So are you saying I shouldn’t love her this much, or want her to love me in return like that? Are you saying there should be limits or boundaries to how much I love my wife?”
(TO BE CONTINUED…)