Why is it that – even when confronted with their sin – some people just don’t seem to be able to effectively repent of it and embrace change?
The real problem is that some sins are literal strongholds; meaning, freedom from them can only be affected via deliverance, where the ax of Holy Spirit is put to the root cause of the stronghold supernaturally when a soul is willing to be freed. The Body of Christ are helpers, one to another, when deliverance is commissioned by God. (It’s only commanded by Him when He knows a soul is truly willing to have Him break the bondage of sin through the power of agreement.) Deliverance prayer is powerful and permanent when linked to the resolve of the person being freed. Hallelujah.
However, unless there is genuine willingness to experience sincere release through repentance in conjunction with deliverance prayers directed by Christ – freedom cannot come.
So, what do you do for the pain-in-the-butt person – constantly buffeted by their own recurring sins and chained to the beast of strongholds – who’d rather bathe in their uncleanness and wallow in self-pity than be joyfully washed by the Blood of the Lamb? What do you do when a person is UN-willing to be delivered because they’ve become “comfortable” with their pain and so well-acquainted with their errors they’d rather remain dry and barren and sinful and sick in shortcomings, darkness, and burdens?
You pray for them; you witness to them and speak the Truth in love to them under Holy Spirit’s direction every time you see them. As God grants opportunities, shower them repeatedly with His Truth which will take away their excuse (the cop-out that says they were never warned, given a chance to change, or treated with unconditional love). Continue to love them from a sincere heart, as God has loved you.
When a person is truly and tragically unwilling to change, that’s all you can do.